Let Go of the Beliefs That Limit How You Lead

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we strongly recommend our listeners go through too.

AMY GALLO: Yeah. We went from vague feelings of we know we need to make a change, all the way to concretely listing what we need to start and stop doing.

AMY BERNSTEIN: Not only so that we as individuals can reach our full potential, but also so that our teams can and our organizations can as well.

AMY GALLO: All right, so Muriel, before Amy B and I tell you about the awareness we got from reading and reflecting—and it was a bit of painful awareness at times—can you just tell us what you mean by a “hidden blocker” and how would someone know that’s what they have?

MURIEL WILKINS: Yeah. So, a hidden blocker is basically a belief. It lives on the inside of you, which is why it’s often hidden because you’re not even aware that it’s there. And a belief, for simplicity’s sake, is something that you think is true. We all have beliefs, and some of them are based on facts. Most of them are based on our perceptions—the lens through which we look at the world—which has quite frankly nothing to do with what’s happening at the moment but is a reflection of everything that has happened to us beforehand. So, the reason I call them hidden blockers is one, because we’re often not aware of them, so they are hidden until you can bring them to the surface. But second, they often block us from being able to reach the goals that we have for ourselves unwittingly because they are serving another purpose but not necessarily the purpose that you want to have, which is to reach whatever professional goals or personal goals that you have.

AMY BERNSTEIN: So, some of the signs that you describe of struggling with one or more of those blockers—they include low morale, stalled advancement, resentment—they sound like problems we blame on others. Why is it so hard to see that we might be the common thread?

MURIEL WILKINS: Think about it. When you have to blame yourself for something, what does it mean? It means that you have to do something about it. So, I think it’s very easy to look at others to blame for what might be happening. And in effect, it’s not say that others aren’t contributing to it, but what most of us don’t do is say, How am I contributing to the issue that’s at hand or the challenge that I’m facing? And when we can start .

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I tend to park under the sun at my workplace, which would be a better option for me?

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There are many air refreshner, you can use anyone. Other option open window glasses everyday for some hours…

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They have vent sticks and hanging car fresheners. personally, i use the hanging odor neutralizing car jar.

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I use glade on my car. The smell can last very long.